Isn't She Lovely
What Happens When The Most Beautiful Woman In The Room Isn't You
A few days later, it doesn't matter because Helen takes it upon herself to email you. "Hey," she writes. "It's me, the girl who intruded on your dinner. (Ha, ha.) How's your week going? Want to grab a drink? I'm having a kind of hard time, with this break up and all, and it was so great to talk to you the other night. :)"
Ugh, you think. An emoticon. But secretly, you're flattered that, out of all the girls, she chose to contact you. You did have a good connection. Yes, she's an attention diverter, but that doesn't mean that you can't be friends with her, right? After all, it's not like she's trying to be so beautiful.
After a few girl dates with Helen, you see her more clearly. She's still tall and thin, of course, but she struggles with ordinary things.
She hates her job and wishes she had a real passion. She complains about her gut, which all the Power Yoga in New York won't flatten. She drinks too much when she's nervous and tends to misuse big words, saying that she feels ambiguous about something when she means ambivalent. At first glance, everything looks easy for her, but with a closer look, you can see that she's, well, normal. Generous, thoughtful and, mercifully, not perfect.
"Once you develop a relationship with someone, good looks are less visible," says Fisher. "A sense of humor, kindness, compassion, creativity, spontaneity and dependability can become much more important."
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