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  • 20 red flags that tell the truth
    By Meagan McCrary and Julie Fishman, co-authors of The Little Black Book of Big Red FlagsRelationships, and the dating process that precedes them, can be tricky. Here’s a cheat sheet to help you navigate the sometimes stormy waters of love, and help you determine if your guy's really a catch after all.
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  • 20 red flags that tell the truth
    If you need to contemplate whether or not you’re a guy’s girlfriend, you probably aren’t. And if your “dates” with him consist solely of booze and booty calls, you're not actually in a relationship.
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  • 20 red flags that tell the truth
    If your date seems to expect not just a goodnight kiss but a till-the-morning romp ten minutes into your first date, we guarantee he’s looking for a bedmate, not a soul mate.
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  • 20 red flags that tell the truth
    After spending the night at a man’s house, be aware of his behavior. If he tells you he's “got a busy day” the moment his alarm goes off, don’t expect him to take you to breakfast.
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  • 20 red flags that tell the truth
    If a guy explicitly says to you, “I’m never going to be the boyfriend-y type,” take his word for it and find a more loyal lad. You’re not gonna change him.
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  • 20 red flags that tell the truth
    If a guy declares his love for you, and he’s currently dating your best friend, run.
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  • 20 red flags that tell the truth
    A guy who's not man enough to have your back on all occasions, even if it means upsetting his mother, isn't worth keeping around.
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  • 20 red flags that tell the truth
    If a guy can pick up a phone and send you a text, surely he can use the same phone and call you with it. A man who can’t be bothered to actually talk to you isn’t worth wasting your time on.
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  • 20 red flags that tell the truth
    If your boyfriend has acquired over $385 in overdraft fees — in the span of two days — you probably won’t want to combine your finances with his.
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  • 20 red flags that tell the truth
    If your close friends sit you down and tell you that they think you've changed for the worse since dating your new guy, don't get all defensive — believe them.
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  • 20 red flags that tell the truth
    If a guy you’re dating knows, to the day, how long he’s been broken up with his ex, he’s likely still in love with, or at least hung up on, her. You don’t want that kind of emotional competition.
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  • 20 red flags that tell the truth
    If you find out your guy has never said “I love you” to anyone, even though he previously dated another girl seriously for years, this information could signal intimacy issues.
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  • 20 red flags that tell the truth
    How your guy’s close relatives behave and interact with each other could indicate who he really is, as well as explain how he got that way. The apple usually doesn't fall all that far from the family tree.
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  • 20 red flags that tell the truth
    A guy who’s got marriage — to you — on the brain will eventually start speaking in we’s. If your man says “when I get married” rather than “when we get married,” he’s not thinking about anything long-term.
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  • 20 red flags that tell the truth
    Watch out for a man who’s not just taking the reins in your relationship but wrapping them around your neck with demands that are convenient for him but disadvantageous to you. You may want to knock him off his high horse before your heart gets drawn and quartered.
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  • 20 red flags that tell the truth
    Never continue to date a man who asks more questions about your job than he does about you.
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  • 20 red flags that tell the truth
    If your alleged knight in shining armor swoops in offering to improve every area of your life, he’ll probably end up trying to control your life. It’s one thing if he treats you like a princess; it’s quite another if he treats you like a project.
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  • 20 red flags that tell the truth
    If a guy feels the need to constantly assure you that he’s not critical, judgmental or self-righteous, we’d argue there’s a million-to-one shot he is.
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  • 20 red flags that tell the truth
    If your boyfriend tells you that you've “changed” since joining a gym or starting a therapy program or yoga practice, and that he'd like you to cease and desist, typically what he really means is that he thinks you've started becoming too good for him, and he would like you to stop.
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  • 20 red flags that tell the truth
    Inconsiderate and insensitive behavior during the so-called honeymoon phase of a relationship are red flags. Your guy’s not going to suddenly start treating you better once the excitement and newness wears off.
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  • 20 red flags that tell the truth
    If your guy becomes indifferent to you, put on those walking shoes and get to steppin’. It’s better to have loved and lost than to be stuck in a relationship that’s no longer full of love at all.
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  • 20 red flags that tell the truth
    For further analysis of male behavior, dating advice, and stories from real women about the signals they should have never ignored, check out The Little Black Book of Big Red Flags.
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  • Danger Zone

    1 of 22

    By Meagan McCrary and Julie Fishman, co-authors of The Little Black Book of Big Red Flags

    Relationships, and the dating process that precedes them, can be tricky. Here’s a cheat sheet to help you navigate the sometimes stormy waters of love, and help you determine if your guy's really a catch after all.

  • Know Where You Stand

    2 of 22

    If you need to contemplate whether or not you’re a guy’s girlfriend, you probably aren’t. And if your “dates” with him consist solely of booze and booty calls, you're not actually in a relationship.

  • Understand His Intentions

    3 of 22

    If your date seems to expect not just a goodnight kiss but a till-the-morning romp ten minutes into your first date, we guarantee he’s looking for a bedmate, not a soul mate.

  • Watch His Morning-After Etiquette

    4 of 22

    After spending the night at a man’s house, be aware of his behavior. If he tells you he's “got a busy day” the moment his alarm goes off, don’t expect him to take you to breakfast.

  • Take a Hint

    5 of 22

    If a guy explicitly says to you, “I’m never going to be the boyfriend-y type,” take his word for it and find a more loyal lad. You’re not gonna change him.

  • Never Trust a Cheater

    6 of 22

    If a guy declares his love for you, and he’s currently dating your best friend, run.

  • Beware the Momma's Boy

    7 of 22

    A guy who's not man enough to have your back on all occasions, even if it means upsetting his mother, isn't worth keeping around.

  • Make Sure He Puts in Some Effort

    8 of 22

    If a guy can pick up a phone and send you a text, surely he can use the same phone and call you with it. A man who can’t be bothered to actually talk to you isn’t worth wasting your time on.

  • Watch His Spending Habits

    9 of 22

    If your boyfriend has acquired over $385 in overdraft fees — in the span of two days — you probably won’t want to combine your finances with his.

  • Listen to Your Friends

    10 of 22

    If your close friends sit you down and tell you that they think you've changed for the worse since dating your new guy, don't get all defensive — believe them.

  • Check His Ex Factor

    11 of 22

    If a guy you’re dating knows, to the day, how long he’s been broken up with his ex, he’s likely still in love with, or at least hung up on, her. You don’t want that kind of emotional competition.

  • Look at His Past

    12 of 22

    If you find out your guy has never said “I love you” to anyone, even though he previously dated another girl seriously for years, this information could signal intimacy issues.

  • Get to Know His Family

    13 of 22

    How your guy’s close relatives behave and interact with each other could indicate who he really is, as well as explain how he got that way. The apple usually doesn't fall all that far from the family tree.

  • Read Between the Lines

    14 of 22

    A guy who’s got marriage — to you — on the brain will eventually start speaking in we’s. If your man says “when I get married” rather than “when we get married,” he’s not thinking about anything long-term.

  • Don’t Stand for Demands

    15 of 22

    Watch out for a man who’s not just taking the reins in your relationship but wrapping them around your neck with demands that are convenient for him but disadvantageous to you. You may want to knock him off his high horse before your heart gets drawn and quartered.

  • Ditch a Loser User

    16 of 22

    Never continue to date a man who asks more questions about your job than he does about you.

  • Beware the Control Freak

    17 of 22

    If your alleged knight in shining armor swoops in offering to improve every area of your life, he’ll probably end up trying to control your life. It’s one thing if he treats you like a princess; it’s quite another if he treats you like a project.

  • Read the Subtext

    18 of 22

    If a guy feels the need to constantly assure you that he’s not critical, judgmental or self-righteous, we’d argue there’s a million-to-one shot he is.

  • Stand Your Ground

    19 of 22

    If your boyfriend tells you that you've “changed” since joining a gym or starting a therapy program or yoga practice, and that he'd like you to cease and desist, typically what he really means is that he thinks you've started becoming too good for him, and he would like you to stop.

  • Check His Attitude

    20 of 22

    Inconsiderate and insensitive behavior during the so-called honeymoon phase of a relationship are red flags. Your guy’s not going to suddenly start treating you better once the excitement and newness wears off.

  • Know When to Leave

    21 of 22

    If your guy becomes indifferent to you, put on those walking shoes and get to steppin’. It’s better to have loved and lost than to be stuck in a relationship that’s no longer full of love at all.

  • More Red-Flag Advice

    22 of 22

    For further analysis of male behavior, dating advice, and stories from real women about the signals they should have never ignored, check out The Little Black Book of Big Red Flags.

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