8 Pieces of Advice You Should Never Offer
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By Naomi Chrisoulakis
Why is it so much easier to see solutions to other people's problems than to sort out our own? (That's a rhetorical question.) Even when you think you've got it all figured out, there's some advice that should always be withheld. Here, eight situations where butting out is the best idea.
Parental Control2 of 9
The issue: Your friend lets their child rule their life—and your catch-up sessions.
What not to say: "Little Brandon looks like he could do with some more discipline and a lot less sugar. Why don't you try the naughty step technique?" Parenting is more art than science, so what worked for you may not work for someone else.
Tummy Time3 of 9
The issue: Your pregnant friend orders two cookies for dessert.
What not to say: "Is that second one for you or for the baby?" Pregnant women often bear the brunt of other people's well-meaning advice, which means you should think long and hard before you offer your own.
Matters of the Heart4 of 9
The issue: Your bestie is dating a loser and she says she's in love.
What not to say: "He's a loser! Seriously, girl, get rid of him." Unless he actually does something that you see firsthand (like making out with another woman or being condescending to your friend), it's best to keep mum. If the guy's really awful, she should be able to figure it out on her own soon enough.
Neighborhood Watch5 of 9
The issue: Your friend and her husband are looking for houses in a transitional neighborhood that you think is unsafe.
What not to say: "I would never live in an area like that." Unless you're offering to cover the down payment in an area that meets your standards, then you don't get to have an opinion on this.
Food Fight6 of 9
The issue: Your colleague eats the same less-than-healthy lunch every day.
What not to say: "I hate to say it, but that meal has more fat than a burger. Why don't you try quinoa? It's so nutritious." Anytime you have to start a statement with "I hate to say it," don't. Just don't.
Home Inspection7 of 9
The issue: You're at a dinner party and the wineglasses are smudged and smeared.
What not to say: "You know, I use a special glass cloth to keep mine from looking like this. And you can get your flatware looking so much better with lemon juice." Um, who died and made you Martha Stewart?
Single Status8 of 9
The issue: Your sibling is single and shows every sign of staying that way.
What not to say: "Maybe if you put a little more effort into your appearance and got out more, then you'd meet someone." There's nothing original about this bit of advice, so unless you actually have something new and insightful to say on the subject of meeting someone, you can save it.
Cut It Out9 of 9
The issue: You hate your partner's new haircut.
What not to say: "Next time, I'm taking you to my hairdresser. What did they do to you?!" It's hair—it grows back.