9 Secrets Happy Couples Shouldn't Keep

Sex Drive

Sex is one of the top things couples fight about. Some even get divorced over arguments centered around their sex lives. This is why it's important to determine early on whether you're sexually compatible in terms of both libido and kink levels.

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Work Ethic

Ambition. Dedication. Financial stability. All very sexy attributes. But if one of you is married to your job, can you also be married to each other? See if your partner is maintaining a (moderately) healthy work/life balance, and consider how you'd handle him working more, or less.

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Social Habits

Opposites do attract, but sometimes, when introverts and extroverts fall in love, it ends up being more trouble than it's worth. In cases like these, it's important to be respectful of each other's comfort levels, and to come to an agreement about how to handle social situations together.

Feelings About Kids

Once you've established that you do (or don't) want to reproduce, find out how many kids your partner wants, and when. What are his views on parenting and gender roles? Can either of you imagine taking a break from a high-powered career in order to focus on caregiving? How do you see your roles as Mom and Dad?

Faith

You may feel that‚ when it comes to religion‚ love knows no bounds. And we certainly agree that religion doesn't have to be an immovable barrier to love. But a person's faith can oftentimes be a core part of his or her identity, and it can become surprisingly divisive when kids come into the picture.

Financial Status

Is one of you super-good at saving money? In debt? This won't matter so much at the beginning of your relationship, but you'll need to know how the financial burden might be divided between the two of you, especially considering that money is the number one thing most couples fight about.

Attitude About Money

You should also know your partner's views on spending and saving. If you ever shack up together, would you want to open a joint account, or would you prefer to keep things separate? Does one of you earn less money and, if so, how do you feel about that? How often are you comfortable eating out or vacationing?

Health

Do either of you have any major health concerns? Are they contagious? Do they directly affect life span? Or could they potentially affect your future offspring? These are things you probably don't want to be surprised by sometime down the road.

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