Advice From "Grandma Glo"

There's a difference between dedicating yourself to a man and losing yourself in him.

Ever since I was a kid, I feared that the commitment I felt toward my personal goals would scare men away. After all, how often have we been told that strong women are "intimidating" to men? Grandma emphasized how important it is to give a man his space, and to pursue your own ways of staying occupied. ("You live your life, and he lives his," Grandma said.) Without her own interests and identities firmly intact, it's easy for a woman to lose herself in her relationship. Glo taught me that a man doesn't love a woman because she strives to be the best possible wife or girlfriend to him, cooking and cleaning and doing everything "right." Rather, she said "he loves her simply because she exists."