Advice for a Woman Torn Between Two Men
Caroline Manzo puts the real in The Real Housewives of New Jersey, and her fans relate to the reality star's no-nonsense attitude, focus on family and, above all, abundant common sense. Check back at Glo every Monday as Caroline helps solve your most pressing dilemmas.
The Dilemma: Over a year ago, I called off my engagement to my boyfriend of three years in a panic. You can definitely say I got "cold feet." Soon after, however, I realized that I did want to marry him, but we ended up getting in a blowout fight and didn't speak to each other for a long time. During these months of no contact, I met a really great guy. I would definitely say I rushed into the relationship, because we now we live together. Six months into my new relationship, my former fiance contacted me and, since that time, we've been going out to dinner, I've been hanging out with his family, etc. My new boyfriend is perfect, but I know I would leave him in a minute for my ex, if he decided he'd still marry me. I don't know what I should do. —L
Caroline's Ruling: I'm not familiar with the entire situation, but I'm going to assume you're a little confused. Have you had a conversation with your ex about your feelings? Does he want more than friendship? Does he know about your boyfriend and current living arrangement? ...Read More
You admit to rushing into a relationship with your boyfriend who is "perfect," but you'd drop him in a minute to marry someone else. Define your status with your current boyfriend: Have you ever discussed marriage? Is it understood that you're committed to each other exclusively? If he's thinking happily ever after and you're not, then it's wrong to string him along, basically keeping him around as a "backup plan." I don't think he deserves that—do you?
Take a step back, be honest with yourself and figure out what you really want. Do you love the idea of being back with you ex more than being where you are now? Is it the thrill of the chase, the mystery? This isn't just about you. You're in a committed relationship, and it seems to me that you're not considering anyone's feelings but your own—not cool. Make a decision.
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