Caroline Rules: How to Forgive a Grandparent
"Real Housewife" Caroline Manzo responds to readers' toughest questions
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The Dilemma: My grandfather was never a loving or generous man. That's actually a pretty big understatement. Over the years, he has said some very hurtful things and done worse, including forcing my father out of the family business. While my dad was dying of cancer, he tried to put the past behind him and forgive my grandfather. Unfortunately, I'm having an impossible time doing the same. I know my father wouldn't want me to be so angry at my grandfather, who is now 93. But I can't forgive him for the things he did to my father. I find it difficult to even be around him or talk to him, knowing how much he hurt my father, both financially and emotionally. What's the point in repairing a relationship I never had?
Caroline's ruling: Wow, this is a tough one. Society suggests that families should always get along, and when someone admits that there is a divide within the family and sometimes estrangement from family members, they are often met with looks of disappointment.
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Families share a bond that is born from a history of moments that create memories, both good and bad. Think of all the holiday meals you've shared, vacations, births, deaths, and trials and triumphs in work, relationships and life in general. So when a family member hurts another family member, it can be very hard to watch and sometimes understand, especially when it's a child looking at a hurt parent.