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1. What do you want your polyamorous relationship to look like?
Ghose says that "there are all kinds and combinations of polyamorous relationships," and "many labels for such things," so she herself prefers "to not use the labels, as sexuality and relationships are best when seen as fluid, and ever-changing." This is one of the appealing things about polyamorous relationships for many people (including myself); they're less rigid in guidelines and expectations than monogamous ones can often be.
Senecal says that it's incredibly important to figure out, beforehand, what your ideal relationship would be. "How will casual dating be managed? Sexual safety? What happens when you fall in love and want to have more than one committed partner?" These details may change and evolve as time goes on, but it's necessary to have at least some specifications and ideas on what you want.
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