Crushed

Strategy 4: Remove Yourself From The Situation

A crush becomes a threat to your relationship when you begin to lose trust in yourself. At that point, create boundaries. You'll know you're going too far if you start concealing your interactions with your crush: If you wouldn't want your spouse to hear the conversations you have with your crush because of how intimate they are, you may be crossing a loyalty line.

Do a simple cost-benefit analysis: If the costs of leaving the situation outweigh the costs of staying (for instance, if you work with your crush, it's not always easy to change departments or jobs), make sure to limit your personal exchanges with the object of your affection—that means no flirty e-mails or texts. Talk to your crush about fun plans with your partner and/or your kids, so he knows that you are committed to your family. And avoid private catch up sessions whenever possible.