Should you pull a Mila-and-Ashton?
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Palling Around1 of 8
By Naomi Jaul
What do Mila and Ashton, Kim and Kanye, and Jennifer and Justin have in common? These lovebirds were buddies before they became bedfellows—and they might be onto something: Results of a survey in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships suggest that people who are friends with their significant other have a higher chance of their relationships lasting. Find out just what it take to make the leap from platonic love to love love.
Think It Over2 of 8
He's there for you no matter what, he knows more about you than anyone else and, these days, you've started to see him as more than just a shoulder to cry on. But watch out for confusing intimacy with romance—men, in particular, often feel more comfortable sharing with women than other guys. Before you blow your cover, take the time to consider whether you love your friend platonically because of how close you've become—or if your feelings are genuinely romantic.
Chemistry Check3 of 8
Not everyone feels a spark from the second they meet—in fact, according to a recent Match.com survey, 71 percent of singles have fallen in love with a person they weren't initially into. Ask yourself: Do I find my friend physically attractive? How do I feel when I touch him? How would I feel about waking up next to him? If you feel attraction and friendship, you're onto a winner: the Match.com survey also found that those who rated friendship as the most important aspect of their relationship were more likely to enjoy romantic commitment and sexual satisfaction.
Decode His Behavior4 of 8
Okay, you've spent hours considering whether to make the move out of the friend zone and you've made up your mind: Let's do this. But does he feel the same? One way to tell if he's interested? Pay close attention to his body language. If he's touching his face a lot or holding your gaze for longer than usual, it could mean he wants more, too.
Your Move5 of 8
If your confession M.O. is to down a few margaritas and make it up as you go, think again. The best way to broach the Big Reveal is to set a time to talk—that way, if he's been feeling the same way, he might get a hint about what's coming. However you want to tell them him you feel more than friendship, reassure him that it's okay if he doesn't feel the same way, and that he can take as much time as he needs to process things.
Pace Yourself6 of 8
Hooray—he feels the love too! We know you're raring to go, but resist the urge to rush into something super-serious. After all, things have changed and you're getting to know each other in a whole new light. Make the time to develop the romantic side of the relationship by planning dates that feel different from just hanging out as friends. And remember that things might feel a little weird at first, so try not to overanalyze every little move he makes.
Going Public7 of 8
When your mutual friends find out the two of you are dating, chances are they'll have one of two reactions: they knew it all along, or, "Say what?" Either way, they've seen your friendship develop, so it's natural that they'll have preconceived ideas about how you'll get along (or not) as a couple. Try not to take their opinions too seriously: After all, whether they're for or against the relationship, only the two of you will be able to make it work.
Friends Forever8 of 8
Your bond as friends is what made your relationship a possibility—so do everything you can to keep it front and center. Remember the things you enjoyed doing together before you coupled up, and make an effort to make them a part of your routine now. Dinner dates are great, but if you used to love visiting art galleries with him, make time for that, too. Nurturing your friendship will make your love even stronger.