How to Spend the Holidays Alone

2. Decline invitations that make you uncomfortable.

Women who thrive on socializing will enjoy almost any event despite their single status, says Dr. Harman. But if you're introverted or feeling especially down and out, “just tell party hosts you have other plans,” says Dr. Harman. Or if you're worried a dinner will be full of couples, ask the host outright if you'll be the only single person, recommends Carol Goldberg, PhD, a psychologist and host and producer of the cable TV show Dr. Carol Goldberg and Company. Try: “I'm glad you invited me, but I'm not comfortable in that type of setting right now.” Your friend will understand. “The last thing you want is to be at a place where everyone has a partner but you,” says San Diego–based dating coach DeAnna Lorraine. Too shy to ask about the guest list? Scrutinize the invitation for clues or check out last year's event photos online.

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