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7. Get out of town.

“Go somewhere for yourself, but not by yourself,” says Dr. Harman. Take a ski trip with a girlfriend who's willing to make new memories with you. If you can swing it, says Lorraine, try to go over New Year's Eve. “Splurge on a cruise, or go to a super-fun place like Las Vegas or Hawaii,” she says. “That way you have something to look forward to throughout the season.”

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8. Decide how you'll answer tough questions at gatherings.

“Plan ahead so you don't get hit with an inquiry that makes you feel alone, abandoned or sad,” says Dr. Rodino. This is especially important for events that you used to attend with a partner, since people will naturally wonder why your ex isn't with you. Rehearse a concise, neutral comment: "I'm single these days," or "It didn't work out." Avoid judgment, anger or hostility, which can make others uncomfortable.