How to Spend the Holidays Alone

9. Remember that when your family pries, it's because they love you. 

Unfortunately, women are more stigmatized when not paired up, says Dr. Harman. “There's a public misperception that marriage makes everything better, and that all spouses are happier and healthier than singletons,” she says. Reassure older folks who think women need men for survival by saying, “I appreciate your concern, but I'm doing well and can take care of myself without a partner's help.” Or, “While I'm interested in meeting someone, I'd rather wait than rush into a relationship that's not quite right.”

10. Be selfish.

Take the cash you would've used on a gift for a partner and spend it on yourself. “Use the opportunity between now and New Year's to upgrade your life,” says Lorraine. Start a new fitness routine, get a mini-makeover or go on a shopping spree. “Take control by doing something that lifts your spirits and makes you feel beautiful,” she says. Make the season all about you—and get a solid start on the New Year.