Putting Your Husband First
Most experts say you should prioritize your partner over your kids
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Less than one month after my husband and I were married—before I even had a chance to mail thank-you notes for our wedding gifts—I found myself holding what appeared to be, to my surprise, a positive pregnancy test. Weeks later, in a room lit only by the glow of an ultrasound screen, we learned that our baby's due date was exactly nine months from our wedding. As it turned out, our new life together wasn't the only one that began on that spring day.
Eight and a half months into our marriage, while we were still getting comfortable in our roles as husband and wife, we became Mom and Dad. We were newlyweds and parents. I won't say that our son was poorly planned—we were both anxious to start our family—but I will say that in hindsight becoming a mother in the same year that you become a wife is not for the weak. The first year of our son's life was the most difficult of our marriage to date and it is also the year I learned a very important lesson: My husband must always come before our children and, according to a survey of counseling professionals from YourTango, the lesson is a good one. Half of the experts polled believe that wives should prioritize their husband over their kids.
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