Putting Your Husband First
Most experts say you should prioritize your partner over your kids
It is an admission often met with outrage when shared with my mom friends, and as novelist Ayelet Waldman knows all too well, with the general public. The wife of Pulitzer Prize–winning author Michael Chabon published a 2005 New York Times essay avowing her love for her husband first before her children, making clear the distinction that while she loves her kids she is not in love with them as she is with her husband. A media firestorm followed, with condemnations from mommy bloggers across the country and an invitation to The Oprah Winfrey Show to "explain herself."
After all, this goes against the golden rule of motherhood, the one that tells us being a good parent means sacrificing all for the happiness and well-being of our children. Putting aside our own needs for theirs is practically a requirement, but I'm sorry, I'm just not buying it.
Neither are many of the husbands who have commented on the article releasing YourTango's recent survey results. YourTango member Tanstaafl2 wrote that his wife's decision to prioritize their children over him has affected his emotional and physical health.
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