Putting Your Husband First
Most experts say you should prioritize your partner over your kids
"Any of her time, any effort, any attention, any affection, any money, any ANYTHING was totally devoted to the kids! If I got any attention from her, it was to berate me over one more of my apparently endless shortcomings as a father," he wrote, adding that he considered, but ultimately decided against, divorce because he "couldn't get past the idea that a good man just doesn't DO that to his wife and kids."
Another commenter, Scott, wrote, "As someone that is [in] a marriage in which the wife chose to prioritize the children over the relationship, I can say that it really sucks. Now we are at the point the kids will all be out of the house and we have nothing upon which to base our marriage. And I was told point blank that I was not as important as the kids."
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But, to some, the concept that kids would ever come second seems ludicrous.
"Your child should come first until they're an adult. I mean come on!" YourTango member Jordan wrote. "Are you really going to put your grown spouse before your baby?"