Keep Your Marriage Sexy Forever
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Get Fresh1 of 8
Yes, that honeymoon phase will fade. But know this: "There are three brain systems involved with falling and staying in love—sex drive, romantic love and deep feeling of attachment. It's natural for couples to move from one phase to another, and back," says biological anthropologist Helen Fisher, Ph.D. Read on for experts tips on how to rekindle that loving feeling.
Talk About It2 of 8
Only you know what makes you feel sexy—whether it's wearing sexy underthings or getting in a great sweat session at the gym—but there is one universal feel-sexy secret: Talking about it. "Women who talk about sex with their spouses for 10 minutes a day [reportedly] have the same sexual desire as women who take a libido-boosting medication," Fisher says.
Get Busy3 of 8
Two-thirds of women don't get aroused until they're already in the act, says marriage and family therapist Pat Love. So, don't wait to feel in the mood. "The more sex you have, the sexier you feel and the more you'll want to do it," Fisher adds. Another bonus: The dopamine and oxytocin that are released after sex will make you feel closer than ever.
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Be Selfish4 of 8
The happiest marriages are the kinds in which both spouses have their own hobbies and interests, according to a Monmouth University study. "People want a partner who makes their life more colorful," says intimacy expert Mary Jo Rapini. "After all, that's why you fell in love with him and him with you." Maintaining those interests keeps your relationship fresh and guarantees that you'll stay irresistible to each other, she says.
Get Uncomfortable5 of 8
If your waitress at your favorite dinner spot knows your and your guy's orders by heart, listen up: One of the best ways to stay hot for each other is to do new things together. "Novelty drives up dopamine in the brain, and that's linked with feelings of intense romantic love," Fisher says. Adds Karen Holland, founder of ReinventingRelationships.com: "Doing any new activity together makes people feel alive, and we connect that high with their partner."
Have An Affair...6 of 8
… with your spouse. This can bring back feelings of excitement and closeness—not to mention smoking-hot sex—you had when you first met, Love says. So send each other sexy texts when you least expect it, or sneak away for a nooner at a hotel. "Tap into that playfulness and passion, and you'll start looking at your partner in a new, sexy light," she says.
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Celebrate The Good7 of 8
Couples who celebrate joyous moments together have the happiest, most trusting and most committed relationships, a University of California study found. "When you share your spouse's excitement—whether it's completing a 5K or getting a new job—you project that joy onto your partner," Holland says. “And nothing is more attractive than a person who loves her life."
Be Competitive8 of 8
Pitting yourself against your guy can boost attraction, add chemistry and lead to a hotter sex life. A Pennsylvania State University study found that competition ups libido-boosting testosterone in men and women. "People interpret that competitive rush as a connection to their partner," Love says. Challenge your guy to a tennis match—then hit the sheets!