Sex After 40

Myth 2: Those extra pounds make you undesirable.

Truth: Repeat after us: Enjoying sex isn't about how you look, but how you feel. “You can have inner confidence at any weight,” says McGrath. That said, if you're not feeling your best, go for a brisk, 30-minute walk with your partner rather than have another helping of pasta at dinner. And try to quash that inner monologue that's telling you men don't find less-than-perfect bodies sexy. Ask any guy: If the woman who shares his bed gets naked, he's not seeing a muffin top and cellulite. He's seeing naked. If you're single now and worried that a new lover won't find you desirable, forget that too. “Your lumps, bumps and wrinkles mean nothing to 99% of men over 40,” says Bobbi Palmer, founder and CEO of Date Like a Grownup. “What you lack in firmness you more than make up in humor, compassion and experience. Plus, you know your body better than you ever did in your 20s.” All those years living in your skin has taught you what turns you on that you just didn't know two decades ago. And what's sexier to a man than a woman who knows what she wants in bed?

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