Should you trust your gut?
Of course, paying attention to facts and reason still matters, especially when you're making decisions that are more personal. (Predicting the outcome of "American Idol" based on intuition is far different from deciding whether or not you like a guy after one drink.) According to Pham, if you're able to identify and verbalize a "particular reason" why something feels right or doesn't, then "that's not necessarily a good sign." Why? Because your "particular reason" (your blind date's bad shoes, for example) is based on a bias. When your intuition is more reliable, "you usually can't articulate the specific source of your feelings," says Pham.
In the case of Josh, you could argue that his tense, nervous handholding biased me, but my feelings were based on more than just his grip. It was a sense that something wasn't quite right. He wasn't present. Even though I knew this, we dated for another five months, before my intuition and analytical mind saw eye to eye and I felt confident enough to end things.
So when should you trust your intuition, and when should you question it? Here are five scenarios to help you hone your own gut feelings.
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