10 Sneaky Sex-Drive Stealers

Sex Drive Stealer #9: No Date Nights

According to Dr. John Beiter, PhD, a Pittsburgh-based psychologist and sex therapist, if you don't have a date night planned with your husband and can't remember the last time you sat down and connected—even if it was just across the kitchen table—your sex drive may be suffering. "In my research to date, I have discovered that women with low sex drive often have a lack of emotional connection with their partners," says Dr. Beiter.

How to Feel Sexy Again: Plan a date night, of course! In fact, go ahead and e-mail this article to your husband right now, asking him to make reservations at your favorite restaurant tonight. But here's some homework for the bedroom: Dr. Beiter says he encourages couples to "move away from a performance-based sexuality, where sex is typically defined as intercourse and mandatory orgasms." Instead, he suggests taking up "pleasure-based sexuality, where the focus is on pleasure, fun and intimacy."