Split Happens

The couple you and your husband always go on double dates with is now divorcing, and you two don't know whose side you should be on.

Presuming that the four of you are all friends, try your best not to choose sides or leave either of them out in the cold. "Divorcing spouses often find they lose friends and are excluded from events they normally attended, which is a shame," says Swann. Remember, it's not your job as a friend to take sides as much as it is to support and be there for her and him.

If the female half of the couple is asking you to drop her ex from your friend list, then tell her—as kindly as you can—that you're there to be her friend, but you're not actually angry with her ex, says Lancer. By the same token, be sensitive to both their feelings by not telling either of them about the time you may have spent with the other person, and ensure both of them that anything discussed when you are with them will always be confidential.