Surprising Spots That Turn Him On

Feet

“Men love foot massages,” says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., a New York City sex expert and the author of She Comes First. Additionally, according to the ancient practice of reflexology, the heels of the feet are believed to be pressure points that can trigger sexual arousal. Want to up the ante? Kerner suggests brushing his feet against your mouth or breasts, which can really get him excited.

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Ears

“Many men love when their ears are touched,” says Amy Levine, a New York City-based sex coach and sexuality educator. “It’s often a forgotten area that can soothe or excite him.” Just place your thumb and index finger on the spot where his ear lobe connects to the tissue near his face, she says. “Then gently pull down and let your fingers slide off so you can start again.”

Back of Knees

“The skin is smoother at the back of knee, and many men love to be kissed or caressed there,” says Kerner, who notes that areas like this, where there is less hair, are often more sensitive and exciting for men. Plus, he adds, even gentle touching can lead to fireworks. To amp up his anticipation, lightly touch the back of the knees with your fingertips in a circular motion, being sure to keep your touch firm.

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Inner Thighs

Levine says that light touching in this zone can get him in the mood—fast. “Slowly move your fingertips up and down his inner thighs,” she says. “Then tease him by following the outline of the crevice of his thigh, moving your index and middle finger up and down for a few strokes before pressing the palm of your hand on the top of his thigh to start again with your fingertips.”

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Mind

Whisper something sexy in his ear, says Barbara Bartlik, M.D., a New York City-based sex therapist. The mind is a powerful erogenous zone for men, she says. “Very recent, innovative research suggests that a heightened state of arousal in the generalized central nervous system (the brain) facilitates sexual arousal.” When his mind begins to get excited, his body follows suit.

Eyelids

When his eyes are closed, kissing or rubbing his eyelids gently can show him that you love him—and also drive him wild, says Kerner. When his eyes are closed, you’re in control, which is an experience a lot of men enjoy, he explains. “If a move or touch is in the context of a dominant woman, it can be a totally different —and pleasurable — experience for a man.”

Neck

Using a feather, your fingers or any gentle object, touching his neck and collarbone area can increase his arousal, says Kerner, who advises mixing things up. “Think about stimulating two areas at once,” he says. For example, rubbing his neck lightly or nibbling on an earlobe while also running your hands southward. “Think creatively about combination.”

Forehead

His forehead may not seem like a sexy spot, but try to “think of the male body as a totally erogenous landscape,” says Kerner. After all, the head and scalp are covered with nerve endings, and lightly massaging from his hairline to his forehead can trigger feel-good hormones like dopamine and serotonin that may just get him in the mood.