How to Survive the January Breakup Frenzy
5 steps to protect your relationship from the epidemic of post-holiday splits
3. Ask questions. If you get a lackluster response without much emotion behind it, then you know you need to talk. If all you hear is crickets, then you know you have a problem. Start by pointing out the obvious: "You don't seem very excited about the holidays or making plans with me. What is going on?" From there, continue asking questions until the answers provide clarity.
Decide up front to be okay with the answer, whatever it is. The biggest reason people don't talk about problems along the way is fear of the other person blowing up in reaction. But by not talking about the issues, people make life-changing decisions in a vacuum.
4. Keep the conversation open. Address the issues. Encouraging open, honest dialogue about your issues opens the door for resolving them. Nothing ever got solved in a relationship with silence, withholding, and stonewalling. Sometimes the very act of being able to air grievances and have the other person really listen is enough. Sometimes you need to collaborate on better ways to handle the issues.
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