What Kind of Parent Are You?
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Parental Control1 of 11
By Alison Singh Gee
While parents may have unique (and often creative!) tactics for inspiring or disciplining their children, many still fall into a specific parenting style category when it comes to raising them overall. We asked Deborah Godfrey, the founder of Positive Parenting, a parenting education resource, and Libby-Jane Charleston, the blogger behind The Mommy Mafia, to identify some of the most common parental archetypes. Which one are you?
The Olympic Trainer2 of 11
Think gymnastics, Mandarin lessons, reading tutorial and advanced violin are too much for a two-year-old to handle? Not the Olympic Trainer. In fact, he’d like to schedule all these classes on one afternoon so that he can take his toddler to intensive tennis training the next day. His kid is going to Harvard, the Winter Games, Julliard and the moon – or else.
The Nanny Codependent3 of 11
Why go to a child’s Mommy & Me class, preschool open house or even a first birthday party when you can send Nanny instead? This parent has to ask the nanny what her kids are into, from food to friends, toys and books, says Charleston. While Nanny's raising the child, Mommy’s out at the gym or out to a boozy lunch with other Nanny Codependent friends.
The Pushover4 of 11
Can’t say no or stop, even though your child has hit you in the face for the fifth time today? You might be the Pushover, a parent who lets a child get away with almost anything. You try to set limits, but you don’t have the tools or determination to follow through. Not good for you, not good for the child.
The Star of the Show5 of 11
This parent is often very successful in her career and needs all eyes on her, says Godfrey, even after the baby is born. As a result, everything revolves around this parent’s schedule and desires, with her child forever lurking in her very long shadow. (The Star of the Show is a close relative of the Nanny Codependent.)
The Cootie-Phobe6 of 11
Antiseptic wipes and hand sanitizer are this mom’s constant companions. As a germaphobic parent she must cover any public slide or swing with Saran Wrap before her child so much as looks at it. As a result, her child has a zero-tolerance immune system and no idea what anything feels like. Forget about a trip to the learning-by-touching science museum!
The Helicopter7 of 11
This parent hovers around his child, making sure his little one never so much as bumps his elbow or hears another kid fart. He’s forever two inches away to break up playground scuffles, keep dirty fingers out of the mouth and snag the last available swing in the park for his tyke so his kid never has to suffer.
The Raving Lunatic8 of 11
This parent loses it beyond all rational explanation. Usually set off by the child not listening to her commands, says Godfrey, this parent will whine, order, break out the sarcasm and then scream, scream, scream!
The Drill Sergeant9 of 11
This parent thinks the only way to raise a child is to maintain absolute control, says Godfrey. That means no chasing butterflies or smelling the roses when the Drill Sergeant’s intent is to leave. Right. Now. Favorite mantras: “Did you hear me?” and “Because I said so.”
The Quaalude10 of 11
This is actually a positive archetype! The Quaalude approaches a child in a friendly manner, smiling beatifically (almost as if stoned!), making eye contact and providing loving contact until the child complies with a request. This parenting style is actually quite firm and motivates the child through love and a sense of responsibility.
The Collaborator11 of 11
This parent presents her child with choices: the park or the zoo? The red or the blue shirt? This mom (or dad!), whose parenting style is firm but kind, tunes into her child's emotional life, making her little one feel loved, lovable and capable, says Godfrey. Another nickname for this kind of parent? Simple, it’s The Success.