Oh, No You Didn't
10 things never to say to a single mom
3. "You must have unorthodox views on parenting."
Not necessarily. A Women at NBCU study found that 55 percent of single moms agreed to the statement, "I consider myself to be a very traditional mom." *Kayla, a single mom to a toddler daughter, couldn't agree more. "I'm a nurse and my child attends day care, like all of my married mom friends. As for the weekends, you can find me at mommy-and-me class and grocery shopping." Kayla says you wouldn't be able to pick her out as a single mom in a lineup at the playground. So just because a woman's parenting solo doesn't mean she's doing anything markedly different from a mom-and-dad duo.
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4. "Where's his babydaddy?"
"Babydaddy" is a word that makes single mom *Donna cringe. "People assume because I'm young that I'm wrapped up in drama, but it's just the opposite. My son's father and I aren't together, but his dad is active physically and financially." Even if the dad isn't involved, questions about a child's biological father fall strictly into the mind-your-own-business category, says Leah Klungness, PhD, author of The Complete Single Mother and co-founder of SingleMommyhood.com. "If you have to ask, that means this single mom has chosen not to share information about that man with you." Follow the mom's lead: If she brings up her child's father in conversation, then maybe she'll satisfy your curiosity. If it doesn't come up, it's because she doesn't want it to—and you should respect that.
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