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What Your Marriage Counselor Won't Tell You

  • What Your Marriage Counselor Won't Tell You
    By Woman's DayIf you've ever been in marriage counseling, then chances are you and your husband did most of the talking. But thanks to years of experience, your therapist has plenty of advice that she'd like to share with you too. Here's what some marriage counselors would like to say, but often won't.
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  • What Your Marriage Counselor Won't Tell You
    Within a few sessions, I can generally make an educated guess about the future of your relationship, says Bree Maresca-Kramer, relationship counselor and author of It's That Simple! A clear sign that it won't: One or both of you has emotionally checked out and is unwilling to take any responsibility for your problems.ON WOMAN'S DAY: Signs He's Having an Affair
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  • What Your Marriage Counselor Won't Tell You
    Women are always surprised that I don't seem outraged or upset by what they're telling me, says Joyce Morley, Ed.D., a marriage and family therapist in Decatur, Ga. While I understand your feelings, I'm not going to sit here and cry with you. It's not my job to be emotional. It's my job to help make your marriage better.ON WOMAN'S DAY: Secrets of Satisfied Couples
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  • What Your Marriage Counselor Won't Tell You
    Women can be so focused on trying to win that they forget to listen—that's one of the biggest problems couples bring to therapy, says Morley. Women typically can't stop talking until they feel they've proved their point. But men see counseling as an opportunity to finally speak. And when they do, wives are often shocked to hear what they have to say.
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  • What Your Marriage Counselor Won't Tell You
    Men don't beat themselves up nearly as much as women do when they've done something wrong in a relationship, says Morley. So if you've messed up, accept responsibility and then quit kicking yourself over it.ON WOMAN'S DAY: Marriage Rules You Should Break
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  • What Your Marriage Counselor Won't Tell You
    It allows me to see the real dynamic between the two of you, says Maresca-Kramer. I can then use that fight to help you gain a better understanding of each other's feelings.
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  • What Your Marriage Counselor Won't Tell You
    In an argument, stick to the topic at hand, says Michelle, a relationship counselor in St. Louis. When you bring up stuff your husband did months, even years ago, I just want to say, 'Let it go already!' You have to get over your past anger, because forgiveness means moving on.
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  • What Your Marriage Counselor Won't Tell You
    A therapist will never tell you what to do, says Maresca-Kramer. It's counterproductive. You'll just become dependent on us instead of learning to make decisions for yourself.
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    By Woman's Day

    If you've ever been in marriage counseling, then chances are you and your husband did most of the talking. But thanks to years of experience, your therapist has plenty of advice that she'd like to share with you too. Here's what some marriage counselors would like to say, but often won't.

  • I Know If It Will Work Out

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    "Within a few sessions, I can generally make an educated guess about the future of your relationship," says Bree Maresca-Kramer, relationship counselor and author of It's That Simple! "A clear sign that it won't: One or both of you has emotionally checked out and is unwilling to take any responsibility for your problems."

    ON WOMAN'S DAY: Signs He's Having an Affair

  • Don't Throw a Pity Party

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    "Women are always surprised that I don't seem outraged or upset by what they're telling me," says Joyce Morley, Ed.D., a marriage and family therapist in Decatur, Ga. "While I understand your feelings, I'm not going to sit here and cry with you. It's not my job to be emotional. It's my job to help make your marriage better."

    ON WOMAN'S DAY: Secrets of Satisfied Couples

  • Learn to Listen

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    "Women can be so focused on trying to win that they forget to listen—that's one of the biggest problems couples bring to therapy," says Morley. "Women typically can't stop talking until they feel they've proved their point. But men see counseling as an opportunity to finally speak. And when they do, wives are often shocked to hear what they have to say."

  • Give Yourself a Break

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    "Men don't beat themselves up nearly as much as women do when they've done something wrong in a relationship," says Morley. "So if you've messed up, accept responsibility and then quit kicking yourself over it."

    ON WOMAN'S DAY: Marriage Rules You Should Break

  • Go Ahead, Argue

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    "It allows me to see the real dynamic between the two of you," says Maresca-Kramer. "I can then use that fight to help you gain a better understanding of each other's feelings."

  • Let It Go

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    "In an argument, stick to the topic at hand," says Michelle, a relationship counselor in St. Louis. "When you bring up stuff your husband did months, even years ago, I just want to say, 'Let it go already!' You have to get over your past anger, because forgiveness means moving on."

  • I Can't Give You Answers

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    "A therapist will never tell you what to do," says Maresca-Kramer. "It's counterproductive. You'll just become dependent on us instead of learning to make decisions for yourself."

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