Whine Away

Someone volunteers you for a project without your consent.

Before fuming at the nerve of that person, think about her motivation; maybe she thinks you are the best person for the task or that you need the exposure. "I appreciate you thinking that I'm a good fit for a project, but I'm overwhelmed now, and I can't take on any new projects" is what Lombardo recommends you say. This type of response will prevent her from trying to guilt you into something you don't want or have time to do. If she replies by noting that your experience and connections are really needed, try saying, "I would not want to work on something that I could not give my all, because it could make things worse." You can help her come up with a solution, but be committed to your decision, even if someone ends up angry because of it.