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When the time (finally!) comes for the kids to journey on home, talking about plans far in advance is key, says Van Petten. (Offering to chip in for travel costs doesn't hurt either.) Once kids are back under your roof, it's important to remember that they're (sort of) grown-ups as well. "Many kids avoid coming home on holidays because they think they will not get any breathing room or have to revert back to high school rules," says Van Petten. "Parents should talk to kids about new 'adult' home rules and let kids know that they will get space and time to relax."

Gurian agrees, suggesting that you set aside "ritual" time to do something fun together—whether it's getting a manicure with your daughter or making dinner with your son. Whatever you do, be sure to also give the kids "freedom to go do what they want while they're home" says Gurian. And if your kid just wants to chill, then hey—putting your feet up together can count as quality time too.